How we met

November 12th, 2017

Nancy asked about how my husband and I met, and it made me realize I haven’t written about it! Thanks for the suggestion ;) I don’t want to list people’s names in this post, so I’ll be using the initial of their first name.

Let’s go way back to my college days. In my sophomore year, I joined the officers group of a tech/computer club, and it was the best decision I made back then. It made me love my major, and I made so many lasting friends. It’s also where I met all three of my boyfriends, my husband included.

Our club had an office in the Computer Science building, and at any time, there was usually someone there. It was a regular hang out place for many of us when we weren’t in class, and we had a TV in there with a Super Nintendo and a Gamecube. It’s funny because I can tie how I met each of my boyfriends back to a single game: Super Smash Bros Melee.

1. My first boyfriend, M, said he first noticed me when I was sitting in there playing Smash. He thought to himself, I want to date a girl like that, and then pushed himself to get to know me.

2. I first noticed my second boyfriend, L, when we were playing Smash together. He wasn’t very good at the game, but every time he died, he’d laugh about it. He never got frustrated and kept playing, even though he wouldn’t win. He seemed like a fun guy, so we started hanging out after that.

3. One time I walked into the office, and my (now) husband, D, was sitting there playing Smash. At the time, I didn’t know who he was, but the whole time I was in there, he just sat there in the same place, playing game after game. I remember leaving for class, and when I came back later… he was still there… in the same spot. I thought to myself, what the hell, who is this guy who keeps playing Smash for hours??

So yeah, as you can see, my husband actually left the worst first impression of the three! We became friends anyway, but I don’t think we became close during my sophomore year. Every time we hung out, it was because we were both at a club event or it was in a group of friends from the club.

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Recap: October 2017

November 1st, 2017

October is one of my favorite months – part of it is because the weather gets cooler and the other part are events like our anniversary and Halloween. This past month can pretty much be divided into 5 major things!

Work User Conference

My company had our annual user conference early in October. Instead of hiring lots of event staff, they encourage employees to volunteer, and it’s a great way to meet the people who use our products. The past several years, I’ve helped out with photography, and I did it again this year along with two hired photographers.

Though not all of the photos have been posted yet, I’ve already recognized some of my photos being used in articles and social media. Some of my past photos were also used in slide decks for the conference. It always feels good to see my photos out there!


October 9th was our 6th wedding anniversary! Unfortunately, it fell right on my work’s user conference, so we couldn’t really celebrate that day. We went to a couple of our favorite restaurants before and after the conference days, so that sort of counted. I might still make a reservation to a nice restaurant to “officially” celebrate though. Better late than never, right? (Fun fact: October 29th is our dating anniversary, and it’s been 12 years since we’ve been together!)

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The aftermath

October 22nd, 2017

Thanks for the comments and support in my last entry <3 I wrote that a couple months ago and have been sitting on it since. Every time I thought about posting it, I made an excuse to post something else instead. On the 15th, I found myself hovering over the Publish button again, and then I learned it was Pregnancy and Infancy Loss Remembrance day. It seemed like a sign that I should just do it.

I hope my story does shed some light on the difficulties that some people may face when conceiving or while pregnant. In talking with a few others who had issues, we agreed on this: no one told us how hard it could be.

I mean, it makes sense because it’s a personal topic that people don’t widely share. When it comes to offline life, I only shared it with a few more people after the miscarriage happened, so it’s still somewhat of a secret. It’s comforting to talk about it with others who had issues, but with people who haven’t, it’s harder. Of course, it’s not specific to this situation. In general, people who can’t relate might not know what to say or might say something insensitive unintentionally. I don’t fault them for that at all. Before this happened, I wouldn’t know what to say either other than offering my sympathies.

But, in talking with others, I learned of other issues people have had. Some were conceiving issues, like taking 1-2 years and needing help. Some were miscarriages. Some were complications while giving birth. It made me feel… less lonely? It sucks ass that these things happen to us, and I wish it never happened to any of us, but it made me realize I’m not the only one privately dealing with these issues. It’s more common than it seems.

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