Archive for June, 2012

“The talk”

June 30th, 2012

I was checking Facebook when I saw a friend post baby photos. I counted to myself, what is that now… 1, 2, 3… it’s her 3rd child! And she’s my age! That’s not really abnormal or surprising I guess. I mean, I’m not that young; I’m 27. It’s just that weird feeling of, everyone around me is having babies. What am I going to do?

I’ve been on the fence about kids this whole time. There’s never been a time where I thought, I totally want babies! There’s also never been a time where I thought, NO KIDS, EVER. My husband is the same way, and I told him recently…

“I think it’s good that we have the same thoughts about having kids.”
“That we both don’t know what to do? And we can’t even make a decision?”

Ok, well, that’s true. It would be easier if at least one of us had a preference, but I like that I don’t feel pressured by him to have kids. I also like that if I do want kids, he wouldn’t be opposed.

However, I do feel pressured by other people. My side of the family is Chinese, and in our culture, I think it’s expected to have kids once you’re married. At my wedding, my grandpa was already asking me to have a “dragon baby”. Incase you didn’t know, this year is the year of the dragon. I got married last year. He expected me to have a baby… now. My parents’ friends in China were asking the same thing, “is she going to have a dragon baby?”

I think it’s fine if people want to have kids right after marriage. I have friends who did it. They always wanted kids. They planned it out. They made it happen, and I’m really happy for them. I’m kind of jealous that they knew what they wanted to do so soon. What I don’t like is the expectation that people get married just to make babies. I don’t like that people are asking if I’m pregnant yet. I don’t like that I got a comment like, “congrats on the next step in your life on becoming a wife and mother,” when I wrote about my wedding before. I didn’t even mentioned whether we had plans for kids or not, so why make that assumption?

But back to the conversation with my husband, it pretty much came down to… “you know what? I can see us having kids. We’re probably going to have kids later on.” In the mean time, I’m still enjoying my free time and not having to spend money on diapers ;)

Weekend guests

June 23rd, 2012

We have guests staying with us this weekend!

Meet Rory (left) and Conan (right). They’re a friend’s dogs that my husband and I are taking care of for a few days. Other than finding an old ant trap and shredding it to pieces, they’ve been really good so far. I’ve learned that Conan really likes to cuddle up with people, while Rory prefers to lay down at the top of our stairs.

We’ve taken care of another friend’s cat before, but this is the first time we’ve taken care of dogs. This will be good for us since we’ve been thinking about getting a dog for a while now. At first, I really wanted a big dog. I love a lot of the big dog breeds, especially since a lot of them seem to have calmer personalities than small dogs.

However, one of my concerns has always been about the safety of our pet turtles. I decided to ask a coworker about it. I know that he has a big dog, a cat, and a small tortoise. Well… he told me his dog ate the tortoise D= Um… yeah… that’s when I changed my mind! Now we’re considering a small-medium sized dog. I know that any size dog might still attack a turtle, but a smaller one shouldn’t be able to reach the aquarium… hopefully.

At the moment, we don’t have a breed in mind that we really want. We’ll probably see what’s available in nearby rescues and shelters. But! We still have a couple house-related things we need to take care of before we can consider a dog. Hopefully, we’ll get one later though :)

Summer is here

June 18th, 2012

It. Is. HOT. Texas summers are pretty horrible. Last year, we had 2-3 months of over 100°F (38°C) temperatures and no rain. I’m really hoping it won’t be like that this year, though we’ve already had a couple over 100°F days. I’ve been wearing my hair in a ponytail lately because of the heat.

This past weekend, I thought, screw it, it’s too hot for long hair, and chopped it off! Aahh, it feels so much lighter now :)

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